Wednesday, 9 February 2022

VICTIMS AND PERPETRATORS OF STOCKHOLM SYNDROME

 

Stockholm Captives All?

It was not until I met Mr Shibi Mohan, physiotherapist at the local Wellness Centre, I realised what physiotherapy actually meant. suffering from lumbar and cervical spondylosis, I would let myself be wired up to machines, that tickle and shock to relieve me of both pain and cash; pain temporarily and cash for good.

Most therapists I met before wore white coats, were suave and machine-beep controlled. They stuck probes at various places, switched on machines and left me to shake or heat as the machines desired. They reappeared when the machine beckoned them with beeps signalling end of each session.  A fortnight of shakes, I would leave with a lighter purse and a set of instructions on what to do, only to be back, there itself or at a new place, for the shakeup all over again. My ignorance or convenience of therapists, or both, I continued to suffer and they continued to earn.

Shibi is different. Operating from a lean-mean therapy room, visibly devoid of high-tech equipments, he helped me understand muscle groups and how they network to hold me up and move. He patiently relieved my hamstrings, focussed on strengthening weak areas and set out to incrementally build  my routines. A fortnight without painkillers and sciatica pains is ‘paradise regained’.

Its then I realised that what I underwent all these years in the name of physiotherapy was pain management; and I never complained! 

I knew what was required. Yet; why did I willingly agree only to be pain-managed? Why didn’t I ask the earlier therapists to get on with real physio – therapy? 

Accepting what was given even when I knew there could be better ways out? Another version of Stockholm Syndrome? Am I the only one like that?

Take a close look at yourself, your relationships and interpersonal transactions. May be you can identify the syndrome being played out in multifarious ways.

Stockholm syndrome impacts, influences and afflicts everybody; rich and poor, powerful and powerless, rulers and ruled, leaders and led alike. It's a deadly game that we all inflict as perpetrators and also suffer as victims, both at the same time.

Everyone a Stockholm captive of some sort?

The Origins

When Jan-Erik Olsson went inside Sveriges Kreditbanken, at Norrmalmstorg, Stockholm on 23 Aug 1973 with a submachine gun and took four hostages, he only wanted to rob. He did not think of scripting a psychological phenomenon, called Stockholm Syndrome. As the event unfolded and culminated, the hostages were released and Olsson was captured. Surprisingly, his hostages were reluctant to testify against him.

The syndrome is characterized by positive feelings of captives towards the captor and inability to perceive the captor as a threat. The fact that there existed no previous relationship between hostage and abductor and refusal of the hostages to cooperate with law enforcement authorities to book the perpetrator are the other characteristics.

The Paradox

Stockholm Syndrome is paradoxical because the victim, a captive and in great danger at the time of the event, develops an emotion contrary to the ones normally expected. It is important to understand that the psychological bond between the perpetrator and victim develops in situations like ‘hostage-taking’, where an intense imbalance of power clearly exists.

Though similar responses are observed in victims of kidnapping, sexual abuse, human traffickingextremismterrorism, socio - economic oppression, politically discriminative regimes, financial repression, religious persecution and even abusive relationships Stockholm Syndrome has not yet been included in the ‘Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders’, the American diagnostic tool for psychiatric illnesses and disorders. The syndrome remains a ‘contested mental disorder’ presumably due to lack of consistent body of academic research. 

Funny or laughable, it’s all over; yet it doesn’t generate enough data? Myopia epidemic afflicting academia?

Unrecognised Epidemic

The defining characteristics of the syndrome is presence of genuinely positive emotions of the victim towards the perpetrator despite demeaning or life threating situations, the victim suffers at the hands of perpetrator. What is often not understood and therefore not stated is the impact of physical proximity and time-duration the hostage spends with the captor. More intense the imbalance, longer and closer the confinement, more acute and deeper seems to be manifestations of the syndrome. Unfortunately, the syndrome is often viewed only in reference to physical hostage conditions.

What about abusive relationships, ideological, political and economic hostage situations? Every abusive or exploitative relation, is an existential imbalance in power, irrespective of nature of confinement and hence a classic setting for Stockholm syndrome. Look around us, exploitative and abusive relationships are in plenty. It is found within homes, workspaces, administrative machinery, ideologies and even in matters of faith.

History tells us of populations singing songs in praise of cruel despots, upholding, suffering and yet willingly extending the regimes’ cruelty upon itself? Longer the rule of the despot, louder and more widespread were the songs! Redemption from one ensured arrival of yet another, even more exploitative and repressive. We have seen crowds, once so deferential,  cheer in Iraq and Libya when their once revered rulers fell. Nothing changed for the better anyway!

Why would people who liberated themselves and seized the power of deciding their own destiny overwhelmingly hand it all over to someone who clearly undermines the very same values they fought for? Why would people flock and identify themselves with ideologies only to give away significant part of their earnings to fatten the overlords and discriminate one against another? Why would partners in relationships suffer and condone abusive atrocities?

It may be fear to start with. It could be survival instincts or coping mechanisms but it defiles dignity, defies logic and goes against the very basic tenets of existence in equality and liberty.

Look around us a little closer, Stockholm Syndrome is a raging epidemic and present in every aspect of life and in all sections of society. Yet, academics cannot find cases enough to gather data, sufficient enough, to prove or disprove its existence.

Poverty amidst plenty; a laughable paradox.

Deliverance?

While academics can continue to turn blind eyes citing inadequacy of data or debate to accept or reject existence of the syndrome, we cannot ignore the insights Erik Olsson himself provided. He is believed to have said in an interview;

It was the hostages' fault. They did everything I told them to. If they hadn't, …. Why didn't any of them attack me? They made it hard to kill. They made us go on living together day after day, like goats, in that filth. There was nothing to do but get to know each other.

Olsson’s credibility aside, his words carry a very serious message.  The onus of breaking free rests with the victim. It is often the hostage who willingly allows hostage like situation to continue. In a bid to sustain life, however demeaning it may be, they shun logic and truth and may even despise those preaching so. It is said that the initial opposition to the movement against slavery came from blacks themselves. Indian freedom struggles also have such examples.

It is the undeployed, underemployed power we have in ourselves that let us become hostages to individuals, ideologies, regimes or situations. It is we, who willingly wallow in the filth we create for ourselves, for whatever reasons. Each one of us is capable of redeeming the situation, but nobody does.

It takes knowledge and courage to turn the tables.

Meanwhile, let academia find solace in their lament of data drought.

21 comments:

  1. Religions, political parties, families, etc. would sometimes become Olsson and we will become the hostages. We should have the knowledge and courage to turn the tables.

    A good article sir

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    1. Thank you very much for the response. I agree with you. All systems, to start with are benign, at least visually but slowly develop malignancy within. left unchecked the ugly malignancy is flaunted as strength. That has been the practise and now the norm. Yet the victims willingly let themselves to be victimised ; happily

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  2. An interesting interpretation of Stockholm syndrome!

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    1. Thanks a tonne. There is something interesting about everything! we just need the inclination to watch!!

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  3. Your blogs are really eye opening
    Thanks General
    Regards

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    1. Thank you colonel for the encouragement. It feels good that people see my article as revealing. Do continue with the patronage and also subscribe to the site if NOT done already

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  4. Intresting topic and good analogy to real life scenarios 👍

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    1. Thank you very much. I find life ( real and put on) a great school, and teacher. The lessons life gives are as fresh as bread from the oven (chapatti from the Tava if that makes it local).

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  5. Well written article! This state of mind is common, but is new information to me. Thanks.

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    1. Thank you very much. You must be an expert in one or more other fields where little would be left unknown to you

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  6. This article is truly enlightening and each one of us can connect to it in some measure. Continue writing

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    1. Thank you very much. Satisfying to note that the article has a link that connects with the readers

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  7. Well written article with a thought to ponder upon.

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    1. Thanks a lot. think of it ! we all ponder but seldom muster the courage to act. but some people muster the courage to act and eventually win.

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  8. Brilliantly connected Stockholm syndrome to every day aspect of our life. Yes we often do not want to gather courage to fight back.
    An interesting article.
    Thanks

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    1. Thank you very much. You are right. Fighting back is a deliberate choice. To rot in current circumstances hoping to arrest further degradation or pretend to enjoy the circumstances as unavoidable are the only choices we give ourselves. once we decide to fight back, strength will come. perseverance will befriend us. the situation may or many not improve. but its better dying fighting than being condemned to rot till eternity

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  9. I had read about it James Hadley ' Vulture is a patient bird ' long back as a teenager. This phenomenon is real and more visible. It definitely needs more study and research. Jacob you really come up with new issues which need attention.. Great reading looking forward for more

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    1. Thank you very much. i just happen to put words into my feelings. will certainly share the next ones too. Looking forward to your readership.

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  10. There are lakhs of Migrant workers in different fields. They are always a deprived community. We know they are eligible for lots of entitlements like any organized work force. I can now relate this with Stockholm syndrome.
    Wonderful article General.

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    1. Thank you for opening up a new front. Denial of rights is the first step of confinement - physical or mental. in the case of labourers either we or their associations will eventually pick up the fight. Butt what about our denying ourselves dignity!

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  11. Sir, same is with our experience with democracy. We vote a common man to power and within 5 years he is rich beyond all honest calculation. Next time we vote for yet another common man. There is no dearth of data on this syndrome.It is own reluctance to confront the issue.
    Enjoyed this article also.

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