Stockholm Captives All?
It was
not until I met Mr Shibi Mohan, physiotherapist at the local Wellness Centre, I
realised what physiotherapy actually meant. suffering from lumbar and
cervical spondylosis, I would let myself be wired up to machines, that tickle
and shock to relieve me of both pain and cash; pain temporarily and cash
for good.
Most therapists I met before wore white coats, were suave and machine-beep controlled. They stuck probes at various places, switched on machines and left me to shake or heat as the machines desired. They reappeared when the machine beckoned them with beeps signalling end of each session. A fortnight of shakes, I would leave with a lighter purse and a set of instructions on what to do, only to be back, there itself or at a new place, for the shakeup all over again. My ignorance or convenience of therapists, or both, I continued to suffer and they continued to earn.
Shibi is
different. Operating from a lean-mean therapy room, visibly devoid of high-tech equipments, he helped me understand muscle groups and how they network
to hold me up and move. He patiently relieved my hamstrings, focussed on
strengthening weak areas and set out to incrementally build my routines. A
fortnight without painkillers and sciatica pains is ‘paradise regained’.
I knew what was required. Yet; why did I willingly agree only to be pain-managed? Why didn’t I ask the earlier therapists to get on with real physio – therapy?
Accepting what was given even when I knew there could be better ways out? Another version of Stockholm Syndrome? Am I the only one like that?
Take a
close look at yourself, your relationships and interpersonal transactions. May be
you can identify the syndrome being played out in multifarious ways.
Stockholm
syndrome impacts, influences and afflicts everybody; rich and poor, powerful
and powerless, rulers and ruled, leaders and led alike. It's a deadly game that
we all inflict as perpetrators and also suffer as victims, both at the same time.
Everyone
a Stockholm captive of some sort?
The Origins
When Jan-Erik Olsson
went inside Sveriges Kreditbanken, at Norrmalmstorg,
Stockholm on 23 Aug 1973 with a submachine gun and took four hostages, he only wanted to rob. He did not think of scripting a psychological
phenomenon, called Stockholm Syndrome. As the event unfolded and culminated,
the hostages were released and Olsson was captured. Surprisingly, his hostages
were reluctant to testify against him.
The syndrome is characterized by positive feelings of captives towards the captor and inability to perceive the captor as a threat. The fact that there existed no previous relationship between hostage and abductor and refusal of the hostages to cooperate with law enforcement authorities to book the perpetrator are the other characteristics.
The Paradox
Stockholm Syndrome is paradoxical
because the victim, a captive and in great danger at the time of the event,
develops an emotion contrary to the ones normally expected. It is important to
understand that the psychological bond between the perpetrator and victim
develops in situations like ‘hostage-taking’, where an intense imbalance of
power clearly exists.
Though similar responses are observed in victims of kidnapping, sexual abuse, human trafficking, extremism, terrorism, socio - economic oppression, politically discriminative regimes, financial repression, religious persecution and even abusive relationships Stockholm Syndrome has not yet been included in the ‘Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders’, the American diagnostic tool for psychiatric illnesses and disorders. The syndrome remains a ‘contested mental disorder’ presumably due to lack of consistent body of academic research.
Funny or laughable, it’s all over; yet it doesn’t generate enough data? Myopia epidemic afflicting academia?
Unrecognised Epidemic
The defining characteristics of the syndrome is presence of genuinely positive emotions of
the victim towards the perpetrator despite demeaning or life threating
situations, the victim suffers at the hands of perpetrator. What is often not
understood and therefore not stated is the impact of physical proximity and time-duration
the hostage spends with the captor. More intense the imbalance, longer and
closer the confinement, more acute and deeper seems to be manifestations of the
syndrome. Unfortunately,
the syndrome is often viewed only in reference to physical hostage conditions.
What about abusive relationships, ideological, political and economic
hostage situations? Every abusive or exploitative relation, is an existential imbalance
in power, irrespective of nature of confinement and hence a classic
setting for Stockholm syndrome. Look
around us, exploitative and abusive relationships are in plenty.
It is found within homes,
workspaces, administrative machinery, ideologies and even in matters of faith.
History tells us of populations singing songs
in praise of cruel despots, upholding, suffering and yet willingly extending
the regimes’ cruelty upon itself? Longer the rule of the despot, louder and
more widespread were the songs! Redemption from one ensured arrival of yet another, even more
exploitative and repressive. We have seen crowds, once so deferential, cheer in Iraq and Libya when their once revered rulers fell. Nothing changed for the better anyway!
Why would people who liberated themselves and seized
the power of deciding their own destiny overwhelmingly hand it all over to
someone who clearly undermines the very same values they fought for? Why would
people flock and identify themselves with ideologies only to give away
significant part of their earnings to fatten the overlords and discriminate one
against another? Why would partners in relationships suffer and condone abusive
atrocities?
It may be fear to start with. It could be
survival instincts or coping mechanisms but it defiles dignity, defies logic and goes against
the very basic tenets of existence in equality and liberty.
Look around us a
little closer, Stockholm Syndrome
is a raging epidemic and present in every aspect of life and in all
sections of society. Yet, academics cannot find cases enough to gather data,
sufficient enough, to prove or disprove its existence.
Poverty amidst plenty; a laughable paradox.
Deliverance?
While academics can
continue to turn blind eyes citing inadequacy of data or debate to accept or reject
existence of the syndrome, we cannot ignore the insights Erik Olsson himself provided. He is
believed to have said in an interview;
“It was the
hostages' fault. They did everything I told them to. If they hadn't, …. Why
didn't any of them attack me? They made it hard to kill. They made us go on
living together day after day, like goats, in that filth. There was nothing to
do but get to know each other.”
Olsson’s credibility aside, his
words carry a very serious message. The onus of breaking free rests with the
victim. It is often the hostage who willingly allows hostage like situation to
continue. In a bid to sustain life, however demeaning it may be, they shun logic
and truth and may even despise those preaching so. It is said that the initial
opposition to the movement against slavery came from blacks themselves. Indian freedom
struggles also have such examples.
It is the undeployed, underemployed
power we have in ourselves that let us become hostages to individuals,
ideologies, regimes or situations. It is we, who willingly wallow in the filth we
create for ourselves, for whatever reasons. Each one of us is capable of redeeming
the situation, but nobody does.
It takes knowledge and
courage to turn the tables.
Meanwhile, let
academia find solace in their lament of data drought.
Religions, political parties, families, etc. would sometimes become Olsson and we will become the hostages. We should have the knowledge and courage to turn the tables.
ReplyDeleteA good article sir
Thank you very much for the response. I agree with you. All systems, to start with are benign, at least visually but slowly develop malignancy within. left unchecked the ugly malignancy is flaunted as strength. That has been the practise and now the norm. Yet the victims willingly let themselves to be victimised ; happily
DeleteAn interesting interpretation of Stockholm syndrome!
ReplyDeleteThanks a tonne. There is something interesting about everything! we just need the inclination to watch!!
DeleteYour blogs are really eye opening
ReplyDeleteThanks General
Regards
Thank you colonel for the encouragement. It feels good that people see my article as revealing. Do continue with the patronage and also subscribe to the site if NOT done already
DeleteIntresting topic and good analogy to real life scenarios 👍
ReplyDeleteThank you very much. I find life ( real and put on) a great school, and teacher. The lessons life gives are as fresh as bread from the oven (chapatti from the Tava if that makes it local).
DeleteWell written article! This state of mind is common, but is new information to me. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much. You must be an expert in one or more other fields where little would be left unknown to you
DeleteThis article is truly enlightening and each one of us can connect to it in some measure. Continue writing
ReplyDeleteThank you very much. Satisfying to note that the article has a link that connects with the readers
DeleteWell written article with a thought to ponder upon.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot. think of it ! we all ponder but seldom muster the courage to act. but some people muster the courage to act and eventually win.
DeleteBrilliantly connected Stockholm syndrome to every day aspect of our life. Yes we often do not want to gather courage to fight back.
ReplyDeleteAn interesting article.
Thanks
Thank you very much. You are right. Fighting back is a deliberate choice. To rot in current circumstances hoping to arrest further degradation or pretend to enjoy the circumstances as unavoidable are the only choices we give ourselves. once we decide to fight back, strength will come. perseverance will befriend us. the situation may or many not improve. but its better dying fighting than being condemned to rot till eternity
DeleteI had read about it James Hadley ' Vulture is a patient bird ' long back as a teenager. This phenomenon is real and more visible. It definitely needs more study and research. Jacob you really come up with new issues which need attention.. Great reading looking forward for more
ReplyDeleteThank you very much. i just happen to put words into my feelings. will certainly share the next ones too. Looking forward to your readership.
DeleteThere are lakhs of Migrant workers in different fields. They are always a deprived community. We know they are eligible for lots of entitlements like any organized work force. I can now relate this with Stockholm syndrome.
ReplyDeleteWonderful article General.
Thank you for opening up a new front. Denial of rights is the first step of confinement - physical or mental. in the case of labourers either we or their associations will eventually pick up the fight. Butt what about our denying ourselves dignity!
DeleteSir, same is with our experience with democracy. We vote a common man to power and within 5 years he is rich beyond all honest calculation. Next time we vote for yet another common man. There is no dearth of data on this syndrome.It is own reluctance to confront the issue.
ReplyDeleteEnjoyed this article also.